Your weekend starts normally at 10am and everyone arrives 10 mins early. I will be on hand with the assistants to welcome you. We normally welcome you with some coffee, tea and some snacks. It’s a chance to meet the others, to arrive and settle down. There are bathrooms for you to use, we will also show you where to put your coat and bags. It’s really Ok to feel nervous at this point, but within an hour that will all be gone.
We start by gathering in a circle, and it’s time to introduce the weekend. I will speak about the theme, and a little about what we might do this weekend. I also talk about the importance of safety, nobody doing anything they do not want to, and some idea on how to navigate the weekend. Then you may be asked to give a brief introduction of your first name, where you are coming from and something about the theme of the weekend and how it speaks to you. It is a great way to meet all the other participants and to feel more settled and ready for the journey ahead.
In the morning it is all about building intimacy, connection and security with the other participants. There will be atmospheric music to support you, and I will coach and guide you to meet others in a way without words that enables you to meet something deeper in each person. Slowly as you feel more relaxed, we will do some form of undressing ritual in a way that you feel relaxed and easy with being naked in a group of other men. By lunchtime, you’ll be feeling relaxed, connected with the group and ready for the afternoon ahead. Typically, we all go out for lunch together somewhere local. This is a great way to make connections with other members of the group.
After lunch, we are then into the theme of the weekend. We will be doing massages, touch exercises, tantric techniques and practices. There will also be some pleasurable rituals for you to experience. The end of the first day at 6pm will feel like you have done a lot, so we recommend keeping the evening low-key and relaxed, as you probably sleep VERY well that night.
At 10am the next day, we re-group and start with a group check in. You’ll be invited to share a little of how your experience felt the day before. A space to share what happened for you and to ask any questions. It might be that I offer some questions for reflection to help you go deeper into your enquiry of how it is for you.
After group check in its likely we will do some meditation practice, and we’ll also do some embodied practice to reconnect you in intimacy, love and connection with the group. Then it’s time to continue the journey with the theme for the weekend. It will be a mixture of touch and massage practices, exploring pleasure. It might be practiced to engage with sexual energy or to awaken the body’s natural ecstasy. It all depends on the theme for the weekend. We’ll break for lunch the day before and continue with the practices of the weekend afterwards.
Around one hour before it’s time to close the weekend, we will bring the group together for a final sharing and checking in how the last day was for you. I’ll also talk about next steps and how to continue your journey with Tantra.
Typically, after a weekend workshop you go into the world after the 2nd day and everything looks a bit different for a few days. Flowers seem more brightly coloured, different smells feel more vibrant, and the world can look more loving. Difficult situations you have been dealing with, you might find a new way to be at peace with it. Many students talk about a better world and the “effects of the weekend” staying with them for a prolonged period after the workshop.