It is VERY normal for all of us to feel some anxiety or a little nervous coming to a Tantra event. Mixed with excitement and vulnerability, it’s no surprise there is a mixture of emotions and feelings. We passionately believe in you only doing what you want to do. To do what you are open to do. Saying no and negotiating what you can partake in is an essential part of being in your truth and being in your power.
All the exercises and practices are done slowly and gently. We give you time to talk to your partner, to check in what you can do and negotiate anything you feel unable to. All the practices are within known safe sex guidelines. We provide anti-bacterial gel, and there is nothing else we do that warrants further safety.
We also invite you to share exercises and practices with as many men as you can so that you get to have a whole variety of experiences. Different people will offer you different experiences. And those will always be varied and different. Some amazing and some that might invite you to explore your feelings.
The Tantra space helps you to rebuild a relationship with your body, to re-engage with sensations and feelings in your body, and to explore the idea of letting go. Often in the outside world, we live in a world of judgements and typically only engage with men we find attractive. In Tantra, we re-discover the heart and love and from this place make choices from a place that feels authentic, true and free. It’s absolutely not about anyone being forced to do anything, but, reevaluating the rules and judgements you choose to live by. As an example: I offer an exercise to have your eyes closed. Someone strokes your arm and it feels really good. It felt electric, and you had a slight shudder of pleasure through your body. That’s what is important. What’s important here is the sensation and reclaiming your relationship with the sensations in your body. Not necessarily who was doing that. But! If there happens to be an attraction between you both, it can amplify the experience. But it should never be at the cost of your pleasure sensations in your body. This always comes first, and we call this the embodiment part of Tantra. Being authentic and in connection with the sensations in your body.
Sometimes participants get nervous about getting an erection once they are naked. This feeling is very normal anxiety and very common in our groups. Our advice is to relax and let go. If you get an erection, great, and if you don’t get an erection, that’s great too. We recommend relaxing, let your body do what it needs to do and just go through the weekend without any expectations of what your body needs to do. Nothing we do in our Tantra Weekends requires your body to act in any particular way, you can just allow it and you to be free and open to the experience.