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A most profound and ecstatic life-changing journey of Neo-Tantra
The modern version of Tantra we teach is independent of any religion but has its roots in Buddhist and Hindu practices. As such, it offers pathways to the different “layers of being” that make up our potential for enlightenment. Just as many other spiritual practices, Tantra offers methods that aim for exactly this – states of complete transcendence of our Egoic Self, and complete fusion with That which is beyond, infinite Bliss, pure Consciousness, or in whatever form it will be experienced.
This week focuses on specific Tantric techniques and profound rituals that are at the heart of ancient Tantric secrets designed to enable you to experience some of the most amazing, awe-inspiring, heart opening states of bliss and connection to consciousness and the cosmos. You will learn specifically Tantric methods to enable you to connect with your higher self and infinite potential in ways that you had not yet imagined. This week is about the higher vibrations and bringing you to a place to embody and experience them. There will be elements of surprise, growth, and exploration embodying the bliss into your physical being. It can feel like heaven and earth have joined within you.



WHAT WILL YOU GAIN FROM ATTENDING THIS DIPLOMA?
This Diploma in Tantra works on these core topics: –
- Sex and how to live a fulfilled sexuality.
- Spirit and how to deeply connect spiritually.
- Personality and how to change yourself into something that serves you (and not others).
- Love, friendship and meaningful relations – how to manifest these in your life.
- Ecstasy – how to truly become ecstatic leading to blissful experiences.



How the Diploma can impact your life?
- It’s specifically for men who love men, join a like-minded group of new friends.
- This is a complete & comprehensive training of Neo-Tantra, from the spiritual to the highly sexual, from the inward-looking and meditative to the highly ecstatic.
- It focuses on personal transformation as a unique journey that is designed to change your life once and forever.
- It sits with your direct experience in that our teaching is practical and experiential, taking you through processes that create incredible experiences for you.
- A tried and tested method that we have developed from over 20 years of experience in many spiritual disciplines.
- Integration and grounding in your daily life in that we focus on processing what you learned, and to ground your learnings into your daily life.



FAQs
Your days are filled with practical exercises, rituals, and many forms of group work form its basis, brought to you in a highly exciting, profound, interesting and sometimes challenging programme. We use techniques such as bodywork, meditation, massage, breathwork, energy work, sexual techniques, and much much more. This is complemented by daily therapy-style “Spiritual Enquiry” talking sessions as in psychotherapeutic techniques for personal development to bring to you a method that we have developed and perfected in our work with thousands of men.
Our days start with Morning Meditation at 8am, where we teach you various meditation techniques to help you experience deeper Tantric states. Afterward, we provide a healthy breakfast to fuel you for the day. Following breakfast, we offer a Tantric Lecture that explores the themes of the Diploma week, aiming to enhance your understanding and provoke thoughtful reflection. After a coffee break, we have a Spiritual Enquiry Session, providing you with the opportunity to reflect on your Tantra sessions and receive guidance on personal growth. Lunch is followed by quiet time for personal reflection and relaxation in nature.
In the afternoon, we have our first Tantra Training Session, which includes hands-on Tantra exercises, Tantric massages, meditations, group processes, spiritual practice, and integration work. We then enjoy a leisurely dinner together, transitioning from the productive work of the day to a more relaxed and celebratory atmosphere.
After dinner, we engage in Evening Tantra Rituals, using the techniques and insights learned throughout the day. These rituals are both nurturing and ecstatic, serving as true celebrations of Tantra and self-discovery. The rituals typically end around 10.30pm, after which you have free time to relax under the stars, soak in the hot tub or sauna, gather around the fire, or engage in any other activities that interest you.
Our Diploma Retreats are available for all self-identified men who love men who are interested in their bodies, their sexual energy, their energy for deep and profound personal development and spiritual growth. Ideally you have already embarked on your personal development or spiritual journey. That maybe in previous therapy or counselling, or you may have attended other Tantra or personal development based events. You’ll need to have a sense of adventure, to “give things a try”, and an open mind to explore and interact with the group members within your consent boundaries. You’ll need an ability to talk about your experiences and a willingness to explore their meaning to you and be open to learning and discovery
Participants come to our training with a plethora of different motivations. Some come to enhance their sex lives, some for the thrill and adventure of trying something ‘far out’, some come for spiritual experiences, some to discover an alternative to the mainstream gay world, and some because they have an issue, discontent, or unhappiness – concrete or less concrete – in their lives. Tantra works on many levels, and you can use it for many different things. Whatever your motivation is: It is important that you come here from a place of true willingness to work on yourself: The more you put in, the more you get out of it.
Men ome to Tantra looking for answers. How to have more fulfilling relationships? How to reconnect with oneself and others. Feeling held back from “living fully” but not fully knowing what that means or how to achieve that. Wanting a sense of adventure, or to change live from grey to technicolour.
If you feel a yes to any of these questions then this could be the programme for you.
We are passionate and are committed to honouring the boundaries that you create that serve you best in our workshops and events. Depending on the event, we will spend varying amounts of time helping you determine and express your consent of the actions in which you are choosing to partake. In our events we talk about what “safe practice” means and we talk about your consent. We give you affirmation to confirm your understanding and we create exercises for you to practise feeling a “yes”, a “no”, or a “I don’t know”, and how to verbalise that. We help you discover how to negotiate with other participants in this process. As per our Ethics we are passionate about you only doing what you feel a “yes” to, and sometimes that yes may be a “challenging but its a yes”, and other times it may be a “hell yes”. We look at “I don’t know” and “No” and talk and practicing the sometimes uncomfortable place of saying “No”. Our aim is that you will ONLY ever do what is within “your garden of Yes”. We continually look at many practices, e.g. Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent, and we look to continually develop our events and practices to ensure your safety and peace of mind. Click Here to read more about your Safety & Wellbeing.
Program
The Tantra4GayMen Diploma consists of 4 modules of 7 days each:
- Ecstasy & Orgasm
- Healing & Surrender
- The Divinity of Bliss
- Sex, Silence & Mystery
Each module is standalone, and you can start the Diploma with any of the four modules. Each module explores the Diploma’s core topics – Sex, Spirit, Personality, Love, and Ecstasy – from unique and very different perspectives.
Upon completion of the 3 modules, you will be awarded our Tantra4GayMen Diploma Certificate, which opens many more possibilities to go deeper with us and in your personal and professional life.
Ecstasy & Orgasm Module:
This module is an in-depth exploration of Orgasm and Orgasmic States, quite possibly going beyond anything you have ever experienced in your life. It can bring your sex life to a whole new level.
We will explore Tantric systems of Deep Arousal, techniques and processes to induce and navigate Multi-Orgasmic States, and Tantric processes that are designed to bring you to experiences of even greater Bliss and Tantric Ecstasy. In addition we’ll experience the Chakra System as a pathway to experience more profound states of consciousness.
One key body of teachings in Neo-Tantra is to learn how to access the infinite possibilities that your body offers you. These are usually buried below layers and layers of conditioning, and Tantra teaches you how to remove those layers within you that hold you back from experiencing these profound states of love and bliss. In this module, we will work on this through specific meditations, rituals, and psychotherapeutic processes, with the aim to give you an entirely different perspective of how to make ecstasy and ecstatic experiences something that can become part of your life.
Healing & Surrender:
This module combines two related topics. In Healing, it’s all about integrating, healing, and moving beyond those parts of yourself that are holding you back from your full potential – in your sex, in your life, and in your spirituality. We will learn and experience Tantric techniques – specifically: Very powerful modalities of Tantric massage, and several types of cathartic processes – to achieve this. We create a safe container to enable you to ‘really go there’, and offer you the possibility to hold a mirror up and look at yourself giving you the opportunity to make changes and explore new ideas about how you see yourself and how you want to live your life. Powerful Tantric processes will support you in your unique pathway to finally feel free!
Then, in Surrender, it’s all about taking you into much deeper ecstatic and blissful states, via the Tantric teachings around “deeply letting go”: Only in letting go and letting yourself surrender to the flow of existence you are able to access states of profound ecstasy. The processes we offer in this module are deep, sometimes provocative and can enable profound new ideas of yourself and the opportunity to re-birth yourself and to release what holds you back.
The Divinity of Bliss:
The modern version of Tantra we teach is independent of any religion but has its roots in Buddhist and Hindu practices. As such, it offers pathways to the different “layers of being” that make up our potential for enlightenment. Just as many other spiritual practices, Tantra offers methods that aim for exactly this – states of complete transcendence of our Egoic Self, and complete fusion with That which is beyond, infinite Bliss, pure Consciousness, or in whatever form it will be experienced.
This week focuses on specific Tantric techniques and profound rituals that are at the heart of ancient Tantric secrets designed to enable you to experience some of the most amazing, awe-inspiring, heart opening states of bliss and connection to consciousness and the cosmos. You will learn specifically Tantric methods to enable you to connect with your higher self and infinite potential in ways that you had not yet imagined. This week is about the higher vibrations and bringing you to a place to embody and experience them. There will be elements of surprise, growth, and exploration embodying the bliss into your physical being. It can feel like heaven and earth have joined within you.
Sex Silence & Mystery
In my meditation practice I stared into the void. The space that is both everything and nothingness at the same time. As I continue to walk this spiritual path, I have become certain of what Spirituality isn’t. What I thought were answers and what I thought were truths have become paper houses or paper constructs. And as I pass by those, I am left with the same questions I had at the beginning but now with much more knowledge and experience and a stronger sense of knowing and exploration.
In this spiritual knowledge, I am certain that the body needs to be incorporated while our spirituality is embodied – otherwise it has no place to take root and to grow. My understanding is that our spirituality must be of this world, while incorporating our bodies and our sexual energy as it is one of the most powerful essences we have.
- Explore the theme of “Silence and Subtlety” and the potential of profound energy nuances in each.
- Expand your spiritual path to the promises of a deeper and more expansive journey, taking you further along your spiritual development.
- Receive something new, something different and something you may not have immersed yourself in before during your practice of Tantra.
- Leave refreshed, invigorated and more deeply connected to your tantra practices.
Questions?
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Venue & Travel
Fallbrook, Nr San Diego, CA, USA



This event takes place in a gorgeous and very large private villa, located in the hills, with gardens, a gorgeous pool, beautiful views, and plenty of space both inside and outside.
The Villa is located outside of Fallbrook, CA, between San Diego (a 45 mins drive) and Los Angeles (a 90 mins drive).
By car: The villa is located in between the 5 and 15 freeways off the 76 Highway (exits from either of these freeways). Turn on Gird Road then into the Live Oak Estates (Oak Cliff Drive) community. Left on Lakemont, go to the end and then up the big driveway.
Flying in: The easiest way is to fly into San Diego and take an Uber or Lyft from the airport. We highly recommend getting in touch with each other via the secret group in the app and arrange to travel up together and split the costs.